[Asexuals cite] boredom, stress reduction, helping them to get to sleep, etc., as reasons behind masturbation." Several male asexuals told us they masturbate frequently, some every day, and most used the phrase "cleaning the plumbing" to explain why they do it.One female asexual said that while she masturbates about once a month, she has no idea why she does it; it just feels like something she's biologically compelled to do.
Masturbation doesn't make you sexual, says sex expert Lori Brotto. You don't need me lecturing you — because you're not hanging out the back of a bus shouting "CLUNGE! You've got sisters, mothers, lovers — female friends and colleagues — and you've never once gone up to any of them shouting, "Blimey! " while honking on their breasts, in the manner of Sid James. You just have to shut yourself in a cupboard and say them over and over again — "FEMINISM! 'The Man'So, when women talk about "The Man", we're not talking about you. We're not dealing with this in a special, noble lady-way. You're sophisticated, 21st century men with a copy of the El Bulli cookbook, a timeless pair of investment brogues and a couple of Joni Mitchell albums — for when you want to sit in your leather armchair, and have a little, noble, necessary man-cry. Not all the penises being burned in a Penis Bonfire. You are like my friend John, when he talks about dating alpha-women: "Feel intimidated by them? Dating and marrying powerful women is like big game hunting. Unfortunately, in both cases, the entire future of the world does rest on people being able to say those words properly, and not mumbling "femernism", or "envibeoment". Which are both, when you think about it, much odder-sounding.2. Similarly, when we talk about the patriarchy, that's not you, either. And then it turned up every month for the next 30 years. Abortion Likewise, imagine accidentally getting pregnant at 16, then having to run past a barrage of anti-abortion protestors outside your local clinic, all holding up pictures of dead foetuses."It's like an itch that you have to scratch," Luke Bovard, a 23-year-old graduate student at Canada's University of Waterloo, explained matter-of-factly, leaning back on a Brooklyn park bench during a recent visit to New York City."There's nothing more to it." Luke Bovard, who studies applied math, says he's been "vaguely aware" of his asexuality since his early adolescence.